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Friendship

Recently someone broached the topic regarding what one can do to begin a friendship with someone on the Autism Spectrum. Since I have Autism and have a few good friends who aren’t on the Autism Spectrum, I have been thinking about this question on and off. Wanting to be someone’s friend and being willing to […]

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Greater Acceptance

When I was growing up few people had even heard of Autism, let alone understood what it was like to have Autism. The closest people got to having any understanding was what they gleaned from watching the movie “Rain Man.” As a result, oftentimes when I told people I had Autism, I would receive a […]

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To Drink, or Not to Drink

As you know, it’s March and St. Patrick’s Day is coming up. This is well known as a big “drinking holiday.” I thought that it would make sense to talk about drinking alcohol. It seems to me that a lot of people treat alcohol very casually like it’s no big deal. For me, using alcohol […]

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Love is in the Air

I have experienced Valentine’s Day in February from the perspective of being single and also being in a romantic relationship. When I was single, I thought it would be amazing to have a date on Valentine’s Day and to be in a relationship. Boy, I was partly correct, but also way off. While it was […]

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Resolving Resolutions

It’s January again and everyone I know is talking about resolutions and wanting to make changes. This can be incredibly helpful for me, however I need to be really careful to focus on positive goals and things that I want to change. Why do I need to be careful? Because there is a little voice […]

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Black and White Thinking

Coloring books are funny things for me. Even as a kid they were hard because I believed that there must be a right way to color the page and ultimately the entire coloring book too. I believed there was a right way and a wrong way to color a coloring book. I was constantly frustrated […]

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Preplanning my Beach Vacation

I’m really excited about my upcoming vacation to the beach with friends. What I’m nervous about is making sure I have everything ready when it’s time to go. Do I need to replace or get new clothes for the anticipated temperatures/weather conditions for the trip? Do I need to get any supplies such as paper […]

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Communication Roadblocks

I’m not very good at communicating, especially with the people I’m close to, such as my friends and family. I spend so much time trying to find the right words that won’t hurt other people’s feelings that I often end up not saying anything. This leads me to “stuffing” my emotions and thoughts. Keeping in […]

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Stress

I have a good life and I’m grateful for what I have and my experiences. I have a lot going for me but I also have a lot of mental health issues. So even though I have a pretty good, successful life, it doesn’t mean that I don’t have problems. I don’t often like writing or […]

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Dating Q&A with Dr. Melissa Brown

Q: I’m really nervous about dating, especially approaching someone for the first time. I have a hard time reading other people’s body language. Do other people not on the Autism Spectrum have similar experiences? A: Absolutely. Most people are quite nervous to introduce themselves to someone they are interested in.  It is a natural human need […]

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Super Bowl

A big social event is happening in February: the Super Bowl. While I’m not a football fan, I really enjoy watching the Super Bowl commercials. I never really understood what the big deal was for many years but I think I understand now. This annual game is important because it’s the culmination of many games […]

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Time to Change

I need to change things in my life so I waited to New Years to say “Yes, I’m going to change this year!” I feel a bit silly waiting til’ the start of a new year to think about making important changes in my life, but I wasn’t ready to admit that I need to […]

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Saying No

I found that speaking up for yourself is difficult and that saying “no” is not a popular response. Sometimes others encourage me to do something that I don’t feel comfortable doing. Sometimes when I say “yes”, there is a high price I pay for being so agreeable. I used to say “yes” even when it […]

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Hanging Back

I have never been a “get in the middle” type of person. As far back as I can remember, I have been more of the “hanging back, watching” type, only coming closer if I feel comfortable. Being around groups of people is draining even if I know them well. Family holidays would be tiring since […]

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Female Expectations: Musings on What I’m “Supposed To Be”

As a woman, I feel I’m supposed to be: A natural babysitter. Good with children. A counselor. A nurse. A taxi driver. A house cleaner. Empathetic. Dressed properly for every occasion. A good hostess. A good cook. A caretaker of others. Pretty. Always smiling. Fit and thin. Problem-free/carefree. A planner and organizer. Agreeable. Not “too […]

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