Questions to Ask About Yourself Before Meeting Others
This resource provides information for individuals with autism on how to plan for a social event by asking themselves thoughtful questions.
Know what you want to talk about:
Shared interests, your hobbies, why you came to this event, etc.
Know what you DON’T want to talk about:
Anything personal or private.
- Don’t do or say anything you don’t want to.
- Mentally rehearse or role play some common topics of conversation.
- The weather, hobbies, and favorite entertainment (TV shows, movies, books, or video games) are good topics to start with when meeting new people.
- Think about what you want to share and if it’s appropriate to the event. If you’re having trouble with this, asking a trusted person can be helpful in figuring this out.
What do you want to learn or do while attending this event?
Example: maybe you want to learn a new skill, such as crocheting if this event is for a crocheting club.
What is your goal in going to this event?
Example: maybe your goal is to meet new people, find a new hobby, or challenge yourself in social situations.
What are your strengths that make you a good friend/person to know?
Example: I’m kind and a good listener.
Rely on your strengths when meeting new people.
- Example: be kind to everyone there, ask lots of questions, and make sure people notice you’re interested by listening, nodding along, and asking follow-up questions.
This information was developed by the Autism Services, Education, Resources, and Training Collaborative (ASERT). For more information, please contact ASERT at 877-231-4244 or info@PAautism.org. ASERT is funded by the Bureau of Supports for Autism and Special Populations, PA Department of Human Services.