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Pre-Planning Valentine's Day and Super Bowl

By Out-of-Sync Woman
I’ve come to realize it takes me longer to get things done than most people. Yes, it can definitely be frustrating, especially when something last minute comes up and I’m scrambling to get it done in time. I would prefer to have enough warning time to get things done well and to do the best job I can. When it’s possible, I enjoy thinking ahead, planning, and trying to think of the steps that I need to do. For example, it’s January right now and I’m starting to think about February Super Bowl, and Valentine’s Day.
For Valentine’s Day, since I’m not dating anybody, not married, and I don’t have kids, this means that I need to plan for myself. Do I sometimes wonder what it would be like to have another relationship status? Yes, of course. Do I sometimes wish I was in a relationship? Definitely, but I was dating someone for 2 years and I wasn’t a happier person. I think it’s more important to have a positive attitude and to know what works best for you rather than feel bad because you don’t fit the social norms. Being happily single with only two cats to take into consideration means I have more options. I can decide that I want to celebrate all by myself and do things that mean something to me.
Do I want to celebrate with other people? How do I want to celebrate? Do I want to do it at home or go somewhere else? Is there any preplanning I need to do for my plans? I like to go online with the search term either “Valentine’s Day” or ”Super Bowl” to see what other people have come up with. I try to make notes of what I like about their plans and what I don’t like. What I usually try to take into consideration is how much time does it take, how expensive is it and is it doable for the time and money that I have right now. If it doesn’t work right now, I sometimes bookmark or make note of where I found the idea(s) so that I can come back when it works for me. Another thing to consider is that due to the pandemic, things might be different this year so everybody needs to be a little bit more flexible.
There is one caution that I would apply to anytime you go online or use social media. Number one, remember the majority of people posting only show you the things that actually go right or the things that that they’re most proud of. There’s a lot of behind-the-scenes prep that goes on and they may have a lot more help than most people do. Remember that there are a lot of things that go on behind the scenes before you even see the finished product on social media.
Keeping this in mind for myself, I’m going to start planning Valentine’s and Super Bowl for myself. I’m going to go online and have fun daydreaming but ultimately I’m going to do what I think is best for myself and what I think I would enjoy most. Celebrations are meant to be fun, enjoyable, and not stressful. As always, I wish you the best of luck in all of your endeavors.