The weather is getting colder outside and people all around me are getting ready for the holidays. I love this time of year. One reason is because I’m able to see more generosity. It’s everywhere! Don’t get me wrong – I don’t believe being Autistic affects one’s generosity or how well they share. Being an adult on the autism spectrum, sometimes I need to ask for help, for advice, for patience and understanding. I’d like to think this has helped me appreciate the value in what others have done for me; the value of those who are generous with their encouragement and help celebrate my efforts.
When my mom and her sisters were in elementary school, their family moved to a new town where they didn’t know anyone. With no family or friends nearby, they played with each other. They relied on each other. I know them as adults and have come to believe that their childhood was the greatest character-building moment possible. And my mom and her sisters think that as well. My mom explained to me that when you share, and people share with you, everyone wins! Everyone has enough. Everyone has what they need.
When I asked my Aunt Melissa, she said, “I think the fact that we shared with each other made us more appreciative of what we had. I also feel like my sisters are among the most generous people I know on earth!! Sharing space, clothes, and products made us closer. We fought once and a while like normal teenagers, but overall, we learned to love giving. Go us!! Go MeeMom!”
When I asked my Aunt Chrissy, she told me “Growing up we always had to share everything. MeeMom made sure of that. I never minded sharing with my sisters or with anyone really. I’m happy to give people things they need or want. It’s nicer to share your belongings and give others joy rather than keeping everything for yourself.”
It’s really a wonderful way to see things, and not just during the holidays – On the surface, some might view sharing or being generous as an inconvenience or as a struggle. Maybe view it as something to do a few times a year. But it’s really not a struggle or hardship at all!
My sister and I have grown up with our own toys and clothes. But we still share many things. And from the time we were very young, every few months my parents have us go through our belongings and donate anything that we no longer use so that someone else can enjoy it.
Everyone, no matter who you are, has something amazing to share. Be generous with your friendship, with your understanding, and your talents. You might be surprised to know how many people you help along the way who really appreciate it!
That’s all I’ve got for today; I hope you enjoyed my blog as much as I enjoyed writing it!